LOVE

Love can be something so beautiful that it fills your life and makes you feel that nothing can harm you ... but sometimes it feels as though the love you have isn't enough.

My post is for all out there who are seeking love of a specific kind and can't seem to find it. I hope you are able to find happiness and fulfillment with the love you have right now.

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Love is all we have, the only way that each can help the other.

~Euripedes~

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The one thing we can never get enough of is love. And the one thing we never give enough is love.

~Henry Miller~

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And love can come to everyone, the best things in life are free.

~Lew Brown~

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We love life, not because we are used to living but because we are used to loving.

~Friedrich Nietzsche~

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I have found that if you love life, life will love you back.

~Arthur Rubinstein~

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All love shifts and changes. I don't know if you can be wholeheartedly in love all the time.

~Julie Andrews~

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Love does not begin and end the way we seem to think it does. Love is a battle, love is a war; love is a growing up.

~James A. Baldwin~

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The best proof of love is trust.

~Joyce Brothers~

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Love is always bestowed as a gift - freely, willingly and without expectation. We don't love to be loved; we love to love.

~Leo Buscaglia~

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A loving heart is the beginning of all knowledge.

~Thomas Carlyle~

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The way to love anything is to realize that it may be lost.

~Gilbert K. Chesterton~

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The art of love is largely the art of persistence.

~Albert Ellis~

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You don't have to go looking for love when it's where you come from.

~Werner Erhard~

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The hardest of all is learning to be a well of affection, and not a fountain; to show them we love them not when we feel like it, but when they do.

~Nan Fairbrother~

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We waste time looking for the perfect lover, instead of creating the perfect love.

~Tom Robbins~

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Love is what you've been through with somebody.

~James Thurber~

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Love is an act of endless forgiveness, a tender look which becomes a habit.

~Peter Ustinov~

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Love conquers all.

~Virgil~

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HAPPY 55TH BIRTHDAY VINNY BOND!

B-man and I hope that your cake is yummy

and that you get to double-dip your candles, too.

Happy Birthday, Uncle Vinny!

House Updste

After only 2 weeks listed online, my parents have sold their house for the asking price. They were overwhelmed by the interest, but I knew it would be that way. We are going to miss it, but I can see how relieved my parents are and that's what matters. Now we have to get them moved into their new apartment ...

Home Is Much More Than A House

It was inevitable. My parents are of an age (and have been for some time now) when their very large Victorian-era home is simply too much for them. Between the yard work and the housework, my 80-something Dad and my "39-year old" Mom (she has been 39 for nearly 40 years now, by my calculations) have been struggling for years now and I, with my full-time work, single-parent status and home of my own, haven't been as much help as they need. There was a simple solution, although none of us is happy about it. Our ancestral home is to be sold.

To that end, last month I went to my parents' home with my cheap little digital camera and took numerous photos of the interior and exterior of the home in which we all grew up. My parents have been a solidly rooted fixture in the community where I now am employed as a teacher for more than 50 years. They are part of the reason I returned to teach in the village where I grew up - the first 25 years of my life was intrinsically woven into the fabric of that place and the people who live there. That house was my only home until I finished university and got my first permanent job.

It will be both a wrench and a relief for my parents to move into the seniors apartment building they have chosen. I know there will be a period of adjustment, more for my Dad than my Mom, I suspect, as he was always tinkering in his garage with one thing or another, and he loved going down to the coffee shop every day to sit and chat with his buddies, or to the Kiwanis Center to help out with one of the various projects. I suspect he will be spending a lot of time here in my garage looking for things to do ... I'm already compiling a list (:D).

So back to the house ... I emailed the photos to my brother and he put it on Kijiji Moncton to sell. My Mom wasn't convinced that she would be able to sell it online, but in the two weeks that it's been on Kijiji, they have received over 120 calls, had 48 visits and 2 offers. This Thursday, they will find out if the first offer has gone through.

This is my way of saying goodbye to a house that is far more than a home. It means family and security and friendship and tradition and memories. When I walk into my childhood home, it's a foregone conclusion that my Mom's crosswords or sudoko will be spread out on the kitchen table, lit by the warm golden sunlight that streams in through all the big windows, that somewhere in the house, music will be playing, and my Dad will be sitting in his chair, surrounded by stacks of books, reading - just as things have always been. I can still picture my grandmother standing in the kitchen, even though she has been gone for 20 years now. I can hear my grandfather's big belly laugh in the familyroom, yet his voice was silenced over 30 years ago now. I remember sitting on my bed under the sloped ceiling as a child, as a teen, as a young adult, sharing confidences with my best friends, playing the game of "what if". We still giggle about learning to dance in the big empty playroom directly over the kitchen and my Mom complaining about plaster dust all over the countertops. My brother and I reminisce about the summery Friday nights when my parents allowed us to host pool parties and the music was so loud that people across the river in Pre d'en Haut could hear it and would dance on the dock and set off fireworks for our mutual enjoyment - friends we had never met yet with whom we shared wonderful memories while growing up, or the times we hosted pizza parties or craft circles or Saturday night dances for the church Youth Group. I remember with considerable less fondness than my brother the smell of sauerkraut on Friday nights, Saturday night wrestling matches and the times he would torture me as I practiced my piano lessons under the stairs in the front room. We recall tv dinners on foil plates, homemade baked beans in Gram's old brown crock, the smell of fresh-baked bread on Saturday mornings and Bugs Bunny on Saturday evenings. The porch glider is still there and still a congregating place for company, even in winter. Holidays meant a houseful of people - family and friends and even the occasional stranger who had nowhere to go for the holiday. We had room for everyone, it seemed. No one has ever been turned away from my parents' hospitality. I wonder where will we all go now?

100 Truths

I stole this a long time ago and then never completed it. My apologies to whomever I stole it from because I forgot to note it down and now I can't remember. I thought it was a good blogpost for a day when I felt like blogging but didn't have any fresh ideas, so here you have it. My 100 truths:

LASTS:

1. Last beverage→ water

2. Last phone call→ Carl from NJ, checking on my wellbeing. He's such a sweetheart.

3. Last text message→ "I love you" from Romeo. (Yes, that's his real name and he's JUST a dear friend.)

4. Last song you listened to→ B-man, playing "Old MacDonald" on the piano

5. Last time you cried→ Last night because I was lonely.



HAVE YOU EVER:

6. Dated someone twice → Yes. Dated him, left him for someone else, went back to him, got smart and dumped him.

7. Been cheated on? → Yes, the bastard!

8. Kissed someone & regretted it? → No, I never regret kisses or hugs.

9. Lost someone special?→ Yes, and that's all I've got to say about that.

10. Been depressed?→ Yes.

11. Been drunk? –> Yes.



LIST THREE FAVORITE COLORS:

12. dark crimson red

13. dark forest green

14. dusty rose pink



THIS YEAR HAVE YOU:

15. Made new friends → Yes

16. Fallen out of love → No

17. Laughed until you cried → Yes

18. Met someone who changed you→ Yes

19. Found out who your true friends were→ Yes

20. Found out someone was talking about you→ Yes

21. Kissed anyone on your friend's list→ Yes



TRUTH:

23. How many kids do you want to have→ I want more, but I'm going to have to adopt to get them. The B-man wants siblings.

24. Do you have any pets → We have a husky named Daisy and a baby ball python named Gomez.

25. Do you want to change your name→ When I was younger, I always wanted a name that everybody can spell on their first try but now I like that my name is "memorable".

26. What did you do for your last birthday→ My son took me out for supper and then we had cake and frozen yogurt at my best friend's house.

27. What time did you wake up today → 5:45 am

28. What were you doing at midnight last night→ Standing outside in the rain with the dog.

29. Name something you CANNOT wait for → summer vacation

30. Last time you saw your father→ Thursday night at my parents' house for supper.

31. What is one thing you wish you could change about your life → I would like to have my hearing back.

32. What are you listening to right now → B-man practicing piano.

33. Have you ever talked to a person named Tom → Yes, I have two students and a godson named Tom.

34. What's getting on your nerves right now? → "Old MacDonald had a ... Old MacDonald had a ... Old MacDonald had a ... Old MacDonald had a ... Old MacDonald had a ... Old MacDonald had a ... Old MacDonald had a ... Old MacDonald had a ... Old MacDonald had a ... Old MacDonald had a ... Old MacDonald had a ... Old MacDonald had a ... Old MacDonald had a ..." aaaaaaaaargh!

36. Whats your real name- Corinna Rose

37. Relationship Status → Dating a lot

38. Zodiac sign: Cancer

39. Male or female→ I love being a woman! :D

40. Elementary→ Hillsborough Consolidated Elementary School

41. Middle School → I went to Junior High (grades 7-9) at Caledonia Regional School.

42. High school → Caledonia Regional School

43. Hair color → red-brown

44. Long or short → shoulder-length

45. Height → 5' 7"

46. Do you have a crush on someone? → Not recently.

47. What do you like about yourself? → I'm kind to everyone.

48. Piercings → Ears and ... something unmentionable ...

49. Tattoos → Not yet, but someone designed one for me that I am going to have done in memory of Roran

50. Righty or lefty → mostly righty, but some lefty



FIRSTS :

51. First surgery → Broken neck

52. First piercing → My ears when I was 12.

53. First tattoo → Not yet (see above)

54. First best friend → Shane, the little boy who lived across the street from me. We were 2.

56. First pet → Happy, a big collie

57. First vacation→ I don't remember the first one, but the first one I remember in detail was our family trip to Ireland for a month when I was 12.

58. First concert → Burton Cummings when I was 13.

59. First crush→ Ohhhhhhh ... Leslie McKeown of the Bay City Rollers!

60. First alcoholic drink→ I was 12. It was very illicit and I discovered that I am not a fun drunk.



RIGHT NOW:

61. Eating → Nothing

62. Drinking → Water

63. I'm about to → do housework

64. Listening to → didn't I already answer this question?

65. Waiting for → a phone call about a birthday party



YOUR FUTURE :

66. Want kids? Absolutely - I'd like to adopt again.

67. Want to get married? I would like to, but it has to be for the right reasons.

68. Careers in mind? If I couldn't be a music teacher like I am now, I'd want to be a buyer for a shoe boutique.



WHICH IS BETTER WITH THE OPPOSITE SEX?

69. Lips or eyes → Eyes

70. Hugs or kisses → I've been craving hugs lately.

71. Shorter or taller → Taller.

72. Older or Younger → Older has always been a huge attraction for me.

73. Romantic or spontaneous → Spontaneously romantic (:D)

74. Nice stomach or nice arms → LOL I would prefer nice big strong hands (is that cheating?)

75. Tattoos or piercings— Tats, but it would depend on where the piercing is located ... (:P)

76. Sensitive or loud → Sensitive

77. Hook-up or relationship → Relationship

78. Trouble maker or hesitant→ Hesitant



HAVE YOU EVER :

79. Kissed a stranger → Yes.

80. Drank hard liquor → LOL

81. Lost glasses/contacts → No.

82. Wrecked your car→ No.

83. Broken someone's heart → Yes, although it wasn't deliberate.

84. Had your own heart broken → Oh yeah.

85. Been arrested? → Is "detained" the same thing?

86. Turned someone down → Yes.

87. Cried when someone died → Yes.

88. Liked a friend that is a boy? → Yes, except I prefer the term "man" or "male".



DO YOU BELIEVE IN:

89. Yourself - Yes

90. Miracles → Yes

91. Love at first sight -- No.

92. Heaven → Yes.

93. Santa Claus → Absolutely.

94. Kissing on the first date? → Depends on the date. Depends on the kiss. Depends on the waning of the moon and the turning of the tides ...

95. Angels → Yes - I believe the world is full of angels.



ANSWER TRUTHFULLY:

96. Is there one person you want to be with right now? Yes.

97. Had more than one boyfriend/girlfriend at one time? Yes.

98. Do you believe it's possible to remain faithful forever? Yes.

99. What's the one thing you cannot live without? I've discovered that you can live without most anything, although sometimes it doesn't feel like living.

100. Posting this as 100 Truths? → Yes - my blog is slowly starving for lack of any idea at all.

Sometimes, God sends us a guardian angel ...

My workplace mentor emailed this story out to the staff of our entire school district and he got back more replies with this one story than he has with all his memos over the entire year to date. It reminds me so much of my beautiful girls, Mandy (RIP, babygirl) and Daisy, who is now 13 and beginning to show her age. I know that not everyone can relate to this kind of attachment, but I also know that most of us can and do feel deep, familial love for our pets. Is it so strange to think that the love flows both ways? Here's a true story which illustrates that kind of love perfectly.

Someone To Watch Over Me
By Saralee Perel

Gracie, my beautiful 13-year-old shepherd/collie mix, has found her purpose.
Six years ago, when I came home from a Boston hospital after my spinal cord injury, I was wearing a huge rock-solid brace that went from my chin to the middle of my chest.

When my husband Bob helped me to our couch, Gracie hopped up to give me her usual 3 million "Yippee you're home!" kisses. But before she landed her sloppy tongue on my face, she abruptly stopped herself upon seeing my brace and, I believe, sensing my pain.

And in that instant, I was no longer her caregiver. I was in her care.
Ever since then, Gracie's reason-to-be has been to watch over me.
Although she's nearly deaf now, she feels the vibration on the floor when I get out of bed. She rouses herself from her heated doggie bed. As I head to the bathroom, she leads the way as if saying, "I'll protect you, Mom. Just stay behind me." If there is anything such as a slipper in my path, she will come to a stop, turn sideways to block me, and then wait until she's sure I've seen the obstacle.

Lately, I've been re-learning how to walk. And just recently I made my first trek to walk with her at her favorite spot - a woodland path around a pond. I used to walk there with her every day . . . before.

It was emotionally brutal seeing my old dog amble so lamely now. With her head down, she tried her best to walk a straight line, but she couldn't.

The next day something wondrous happened. Gracie remembered her calling. Renewed as if granted a second life, she became happy and purposeful in her ever-vigilant new role as "Grand Protector of My Mom."

If another dog jumps up to greet me, I fall. So, on that second day, a dog about 30 pounds bigger and many years younger than Gracie raced in my direction. Gracie, barking, "I'll get him!" moved as fast as she could to shield me. She planted her old, weak body right in front of me as a barrier.

She faced the large, spirited dog. Then she barked a loud warning, "You better stay away from my mom!" The dog tried to get around her to reach me. Gracie growled, which I have not seen her do in over 10 years, "I mean it!"
The dog backed off. Gracie has taken on 4 dogs at once, to stop them from getting to me.

You see, she has shown me something I had not known before. Gracie would give up her life for me.

A verse from the song "Mr. Bojangles" haunts me.

"He spoke with tears of fifteen years
how his dog and him just traveled about.
His dog up and died.
He up and died.
After twenty years he still grieves."

Today, I said to my wise reverend friend Connie, "Do you think that having Gracie is worth the pain of losing her?"

Connie said, "Oh yes. Your sadness is so deep only because your love is so deep. What is a life without love?"

And so, I knelt on the floor next to my Gracie. "Thank you for taking care of me - for protecting me from all of the evils you think could ever come my way." I rubbed her bony hips and shoulders. "You have done a great job." I kissed her golden forehead. "I will always love you." She sighed, then fell asleep, tired from a long day of watching over me. I whispered so as not to wake her, "You are my true friend."

Sunday Morning Un-Blues

I've been thinking a lot lately about my first online friends. Before them, I didn't believe that online friendships were real or lasting, but it's been years now and we are still very much a part of each other's lives. Is it a miracle, or just a case of like-minded people meeting each other despite the odds? Chances are, I will never understand how it happened, but I thank my lucky stars every day that I was in the right place at the right time.


I wrote music for this as well, but you're going to just have to imagine it - think a simple 12-bar blues, a la Muddy Waters ...


Woke up this morning
Crawled out of bed
The dreams of last night
Still alive in my head

Been thinkin' 'bout friends
I won't ever forget
Don't seem to matter
That we've never met

Went to the kitchen
To fry up some bacon
Thought about Dana
Prayed her back wasn't achin'

Cracked some eggs in the pan
Stirred the whites with the yolks
Thanked the good Lord above
For Jo and her jokes

Next into the pan
Des tomates coupees en tranches
Prayed our Trav always would
Have a reason to dance

And I wished with a smile
As I stirred the oatmeal
That dear Yoda discovers
A love that is real

Thought about Angell
As I toasted some bread
Hope she's been list'nin'
To her heart, not her head

Sweet strawberried sliced
Bear the shape of a heart
For Vinny and Nancy
Who have found their new start

Smiled as I squeezed
An orange or two
Says a prayer for sweet Julie
She has so much to do

Poured glasses of milk
As I prayed for our Ann
That God grants her peace
And a soft place to lan'

Started the coffee to perk
Thought of Robin and Wayne
Who are always so kind
Though they've nothing to gain

Set a fresh bowl of water
And dogfood on the mat
And grinned about Meri
As I gave Daisy a pat

Called my son to the table
My sweet little boy
Thought of Dixie and Turn
And wished them much joy

Woke up this morning
Crawled out of bed
Seems I'm never alone cos
I've got y'all in my head!

~C. Masson, 31 May 2009~

BLOG-OLOGY

MOUTHOLOGY

Q. What is your salad dressing of choice?

A. Thai Sweet & Spicy

Q. What is your favorite fast food restaurant?

A: Bravo Pizzeria - for their yummilicious souvlaki

Q. What is your favorite sit-down restaurant?

A. Graffiti - for the moussaka and their superlative wine cellar

Q. On average, what size tip do you leave at a restaurant?

A. Entirely based on the service provided

Q. What food could you eat every day for two weeks and not get sick of?

A. Brochettes with shrimp or chicken and veggies

Q. What are your pizza toppings of choice?

A. spicy barbeque chicken and red onions

Q. What do you like to put on your toast?

A. peanut butter or tahini

TECHNOLOGY

Q. What is your wallpaper on your computer?

A. A picture of my son at his last tae kwondo test day

Q. How many televisions are in your house?

A. Two - but no cable

BIOLOGY

Q. Are you right-handed or left-handed?

A. Right mostly

Q. Have you ever had anything removed from your body?

A. Yes, several things and glad to see them go

Q. When was the last time you had a cavity?

A. so many years ago, I don't remember

Q. What is the last heavy item you lifted?

A. the dog into the back of the car - she's getting too old to get in by herself

Q. Have you ever been knocked unconscious?

A. Yes

BULL[CRAP]OLOGY

Q. If it were possible, would you want to know the day you were going to die?

A. No, don't think so

Q. If you could change your name, what would you change it to?

A. I like my name just fine thanks, although when I was younger, I would have given anything to have a name people could spell without asking.

Q. What color do you think looks best on you?

A. Jewel tones - cherry red, emerald green, deep purple ...

Q. Have you ever swallowed a non-food item by mistake?

A. Uhhhh ... lol yeah ...

Q. Have you ever saved someone's life?

A. It's been said that I have, but I'm not convinced of it.

Q. Has someone ever saved yours?

A. Several times now

DAREOLOGY

Q. Would you kiss a member of the same sex for $100?

A. Yes

Q. Would you allow one of your little fingers to be cut off for $200,000?

A. That's a BIG negative

Q. Would you never blog again for $50,000?

A. LOL I don't think I'd have a problem with that ...

Q. Would you pose naked in a magazine for $250,000?

A. That's a fershure, although they aren't exactly beating the door down with offers, for some reason.

Q. Would you drink an entire bottle of hot sauce for $1000?

A. Depends...how many weeks do I have to do it?

Q. Would you, without fear of punishment, take a human life for $1,000,000?

A. ... *considers this* ... can I choose who I get to off?

DUMBOLOGY

Q: What is in your left pocket?

A: No pants = no pockets

Q: Is Napoleon Dynamite actually a good movie?

A: Not really, no.

Q: Could you live with roommates?

A: I've done it many times before and, although I wouldn't choose to again, I could do it if I had to.

Q: How many pairs of flip flops do you own?

A: three

Q: Last time you had a run-in with the cops?

A: Two weeks ago when one of my neighbours had an accident in her yard

Q: What do you want to be when you grow up?

A: Young at heart

Q: Who is number 1 on your top 8?

A: the B-man will always be my number one

LASTOLOGY

Q: Friend you talked to?

A: Michelle

Q: Last person who called you?

A: Dale

Q: Person you hugged?

A: the B-man

FAVORITOLOGY

Q: Number?

A: two

Q: Season?

A: autumn because it's still warm but the blackflies are gone and the mosquitos are dazed

CURRENTOLOGY

Q: Missing someone?

A: Yes

Q: Mood?

A: relaxed

Q: Listening to?

A: Kenny Loggins cd

Q: Watching?

A. I don't watch tv

Q: Worrying about?

A. nothing right now

RANDOMOLOGY

Q: First place you went this morning?

A: outside with the dog

Q: What can you not wait to do?

A. go on my vacation

Q: What's the last movie you saw?

A. Dead Men wear Plaid (on dvd)

Q: Do you smile often?

A: I smile a lot

Q: Are you a friendly person?

A: Friendly but shy, so sometimes I come across a bit aloof

For Anndi and Chicklet

We were all shaken by the news that Anndi's dad had passed away. May peace and comfort find you in this time of sadness, my dearly loved friends.

Sonny's Stolen Sunday Meme

1. My uncle once : took me out on a snowmobile to teach me how to drive it and ran into a tree.

2. Never in my life : bungee jumping - no way!!

3. When I was seventeen : I got my drivers license.

4. High School was : forgettable.

5. I will never forget : Roran.

6. I once met : Mikael Baryshnikov (he was really short, but HOT!)

7. There’s this girl I know who : just won the Donnie Smith Chopper Class Challenge international motorcycle-design competition in Minnesota and she's from a local high school.

8. Once, at a bar : I partied with some of the members of the band "Chicago".

9. By noon, I’m usually : thinking about quitting time.

10. Last night : I made fudge for my grade 10 English class.

12. Next time I go to gym/church : I will remember to be thankful that I can.

13. Susan Boyle : I hope her new reality is better than all her dreams.

14. What worries me most : right now, my health.

15. When I turn my head left, I see : my sweet B-man playing with his soldiers.

16. When I turn my head right, I see : my cuddly Daisy dog laying on her back, snoozing.

17. You know I’m lying when : I say I'm never lonely.

18. What I miss most about the eighties : going to university.

19. If I was a character in Shakespeare, I’d be : Beatrice from "Much Ado About Nothing"

20. By this time next year : Custody of my son will be finalized.

21. A better name for me would be : Nicely Nicely

22. I have a hard time understanding : why bad things happen to good people.

23. If I ever go back to school, I’ll : finish my masters degree in High School Guidance.

24. You know I like you if : come back to you after I've been gone for a while.

25. If I ever won an award, the first person I’d thank would be : my sweet son, B-man, for being my reason.

26. When I compare 80’s rock to 90’s rock : I have my students write a report about it. (:P)

27. Take my advice, never : forget to count your blessings each day.

28. My ideal breakfast is : yogurt and fruit.

29. A song I love, but do not own is : "Dream Come True" by Frozen Ghost

30. If you visit my hometown, I suggest : bringing your walking shoes because we have over 60 kms of the most beautiful walking trails in Canada within the city limits.

31. My favorite Beatle is : I've always been John's girl.

32. Why won’t people : be kinder and more tolerant to each other?

33. If you spend the night at my house : B-man will make you breakfast.

34. I’d stop my wedding for : BWAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA ... if only SOMEONE had!

35. The world could do without : gossip.

36. I’d rather lick the belly of a cockroach than : speak to my ex again.

37. My favorite blonde is : my best friend's daughter Kyla.

38: Paper clips are more useful than : muffin top pans (I just don't GET those).

39. If I do anything well, it’s : listen.

40. And by the way : I'm late for work ... again!

HAPPY MOTHER'S DAY TO ALL

Happy Mother's Day!

Today, i received a card with this poem in it. It was signed "I love you Mommy, from Brennan". At his insistance, i read it out loud but i choked up at the end because my Mother's Day gift was more than i ever expected. See, he got up early to make breakfast for me by himself this morning and, before he woke me up, he went out in the yard and picked a huge bouquet of dandelions and put them in a plastic cup in the center of the table. What a wonderful, special gift from the heart of a 6-year old boy. May you all experience this much love today. God bless.

Dandelions

Mommy,

Guessing your favorite flower
Shouldn't be all that hard.
I'll bet they're green and yellow
And grow all over the yard.

I only pick the special ones
Because they're just for you.
They're my way of saying thanks
For everything you do!

And even if these flowers
Only seem to last for a day,
The love that they are given with
Will always be there to stay.

For when it comes to picking
The mommy that's the best,
In my precious little eyes
"You" stand out from all the rest!

I really love you mommy.
Hope your Mother's Day is fun.
Here's hugs and kisses for you
From your "darling little one".

A GREAT R&B Song Discovery

This is the best r&b song I've heard in ages. Listen carefully to the lyrics and you'll understand why ...